Facebook Delete

After things don't work out with your date of.....lets say 6 weeks. Is it appropriate to delete them from your facebook account?

At first I hesitated to the point of ambivalence. But now I am leaning towards pushing the eject button. I guess it comes down to do you want this person privy to your personal life? Your daily happenings, new 'friends', pictures, and social calendar? Its actually a bit creepy when you consider facebook stalking and how much information they have access too. Not to mention your access into their life. How is that doing in your quest to move on?

I've argued it all with myself. Not wanting to look like I care. Considering all the other 'friends' I have let into my facebook life...including some of those I'm embarrassed to say, I don't even remember meeting. But those random friends from high school or current friends of my sister, who lives in Saskatchewan, are arguably harmless. This is someone who I was once intimate with...who I am no longer intimate with...who is not a part of my life anymore.

I have to admit I've never deleted anyone before. Its true. I've been deleted it sucks. It hurt my feelings. I never confronted this person....mostly because I never cared enough. This whole ponder feels childish, but yet in today's social media dominated world...a worthy etiquette question.

I'll keep you 'posted'

My Chicago Top Ten

Top ten reasons why Chicago is the the most underrated city in America

10. Amazing food
  9. Art
  8. Famous architecture
  7. Shopping
  6. Left winged friendly peeps
  5. 24 hour fresh tacos
  4. Pizza
  3.  Lake Michigan
  2. Classic grungy blues bars
  1. Standing ovation reception from men just for  walking by x2

Thanks Jana for the best Birthday weekend getaway this gal has ever had! Love you!

Fuck Cancer

Today was.....let me just say this...I kicked my shoes and boots clear across the room...like about five or six times. I just kept kicking them until they were scattered across the floor....

They say you hurt the ones you love the most.

I got into my car and sobbed...all the way to Luna Blue, my favourite store where I thought I would find SOMETHING to make me feel better. Of course not. Nothing can help the fact that I'm losing my Dad.

What do you wear on a date with a Stunt Man?

I'm getting getting ready for a date with my friend Markus and his brother Justin. Yep, that's right a tri-date. Justin and I have never met and Markus thinks this is the most comfortable way for us to meet. I disagree, but am trying to stay open.

Once before, many years ago, I was set up in a similar way...few friends, less uncomfortable, and coincidental it was the same place.  Well this ended up being in my top 5 worst dates for sure. Justin was late, but his five closest friends were not. They got to know everything about me before I even finished my first drink. Then when Justin finally showed up, so did his 20 friends from ? high school, Saskatchewan? I'm not sure but it felt like I was at a high school reunion, including the x-girlfriend  announcing her engagement to the better man she broke up with Justin to be with. When I found out Markus's brother had the same name. I mostly laughed.... but I'm not gonna lie, warning bells crept in and silently rang.

What great practice for seeing things with fresh eyes. Staying open to possibility and love is hard especially when we all have past experiences packed away in bags. Leave the luggage behind. Its not to be carried or disguised in pretty colors and textures. Inner wisdom and intuition is all that is needed. Plus a credit card for a possible quick get-a-way. Perhaps all that is needed on my date with a stunt man. But I might bring my helmet just in case.

I can't breathe

Six feet Under

Remember that show? So Brilliant, so real. Up close and personal with Death, which really is the part of life that no one wants to ever speak about. The ultimate goodbye; the birth of a legacy.

I remember personalizing myself with several episodes and finding great life lessons in others...

Don't leave anything unfinished.  Don't let important words go unspoken. Spent time with those you care about now.  Be vulnerable.  Be mindful. Cherish precious people and moments. Don't take those you care about most for granted. Don't wait. If you can choose between being right and being kind; choose kindness every time. Always say 'I love you'

I love you Dad.